STOP THE HATE - Enough about B.I.C already!

I always start with the same preface; I don't know Beyonce Knowles or Shawn Carter.   I know their music; I know what they have told all of us, I know what they want us to know.  I also know that since the VMA announcement of their pregnancy and the birth of their child last week, the level of hate normally spewed upon this often private couple has elevated to a ridiculous level. It wasn't enough that people speculated for years on this woman’s wound and kept saying how she needed to give that man a baby. Then when she did just that, people and their hate just boiled over.

The most confusing aspect of this to me is the idea that this woman and this man who are not super human in any way, couldn't just lay down, have sex, wake up pregnant, wait 9 months and voila - Blue Ivy appears, is bizarre to me. It appears those who hate the most on this union, this pregnancy, and this baby, are those who idolize these people the most. Keeping in mind that the only thing that makes these two people different than any other married couple having a baby is the fact that they are famous musicians who are pretty well off financially.  Beyonce may have gotten special treatment by the hospital, but her uterus contracted just like any other woman, she had to endure labor pains to push her baby into this hateful world, just like mothers before and after her. Jay Z had to wait helplessly like every other father during labor, to meet his child. Yes they are rich and famous but they are people.  And because they are people who have been famous for the better part of the last two decades, some people feel connected to their lives.  So when people wish them well, it’s because they see them as humans, deserving of happiness and joy just like anyone else.

I often wonder why the story of these two seems so hard to relate to for some. Is it so unbelievable that a man, having gone through the first 30 years of his life without a child or wife, could meet a much younger woman who works in his field, court her, date her, marry her and always above everything show her respect in public? Is it so hard to believe that man met the woman of his dreams and feels honored that she chose him? This isn't such an outrageous story.  But maybe their story is not as relatable as it should be. Maybe because she didn't steal him from his wife and he wasn’t accused of cheating all over town and he didn't beat her ass on the way to work and she doesn't pimp out their marriage for popularity and he doesn't have four kids from four different women and he hasn't been to jail and she hasn't been trooping the bid with him and he didn't marry her because she was pregnant or never marry her at all or make her beg for a ring. Maybe those are all the reasons that make their relationship un- relatable to certain people and therefore unreal. The idea that visually fucked up and dysfunctional relationships are the only ones that seem real and relatable says a lot more about the world than it does about Jay or Bey or little Blue Ivy.

Keep in mind that I don't know these two people but understand that I wish them well like I wish many people well when they have milestones.  And because I don't know these two personally I can have a bit more hope for their situation than some I may know more intimately.  This is because I don’t know their thorns and ugly parts.  And that is fine.  I can simply wish them the best and move on to focus on my own life with its thorns and ugly parts.  What does it say about a person who can muster up all this negativity and hate towards three people they do not know and will never know?  I would argue these people have alot more issues with their own life, their own choices and their own consequences than they really have about what Jay and Bey have done.  They say if you don’t have anything nice to say you shouldn’t say anything at all.  It is my hope that the world just shut up and let this family enjoy the blessing of Baby Blue Ivy Carter.