Some people believe strongly that they have “haters.” A bunch of people who sit around and hate on everything they do and say. People who don’t wish them well, rather pray for their demise. Some people actually use social networking to reach out to their “haters” in order to ensure they know just how much they are loved. While I personally know of not one person who “hates” on me, I am sure there are people who may actually hate me. I am also sure that I gave them a very good reason to do so, therefore I am not concerned. This has become such a major topic of discussion I thought I was missing the gene that makes me capable of attracting this legion of followers who do nothing but watch my every move and then hate on each and every one. After much deliberation I decided it had to be one of two things. 1) I need to step my game all the way up or 2) these haters people have are merely figments of their imagination which they use to boost their own ego and push them to do more/better. Let’s start with the first.
I decided (and feel free to dispute this if you must) that I am doing quite well for myself at my age. I have accomplished some pretty neat stuff (by my standards of course) and more importantly by doing the things I have done thus far, I laid the foundation for what I seek to achieve in the future. I keep my head down, focus on what I want to achieve and put in the work in order to do it. I don’t brag to anyone and often have a hard time even sharing my accomplishments for fear of appearing boastful. I know what I want and I only want that for me, so I just work at it to get it done. No real need for anyone else to hate on it, especially since I don’t view my life as one anyone else should pine over. I don’t see anything that I do as magical. I just as well assume that anyone else who wants to do what I am doing or anything else for that matter will simply figure out what it takes to get where they want to be, put together a plan and execute it (seems pretty straight forward to me). So I see no reason for another person to “hate” on me (which is code word for being jealous). And if they hate, I have no clue because I never turn my head to the left or right to see what other people are doing, I am kind of focused on me. But maybe that’s the part about having haters that I am missing. You have to 1) be able to recognize when you have them and 2) be willing to give them attention. I think I may just be incapable of both. This brings me to the second option.
If in fact you have decided that there are a bunch of people out there hating on you, I will have to assume that you know this for a fact. Mainly because this person or people must have done/said something to indicate that they do not in fact wish you well. If that happens, I would think that you would no longer associate which such a person and therefore they wouldn’t be able to be on your radar to be assigned such a distinguished title like “hater.” But if you opt to keep these people around, I will assume that you get something from having the hater around. Maybe it is because you have someone to prove something to. Maybe it gives you just the push you need to always remain above the rest. Or maybe you just like the attention that comes from knowing that someone somewhere is thinking about you (even if it isn’t positive). And if in fact there aren’t actually a bunch of people who hate on you and just one specific person, maybe it sounds better to the masses to have a legion of haters thereby turning one hater in to a bunch of haters. They say there is power in numbers.
Maybe I do need to step my game up; lord knows there is more I could be doing with my life. Maybe people create these ideas of haters as self motivation. Or a third option could be that I have haters reading this right now and saying how much I suck yet I am just too naive to recognize it. All of the above could be true. One thing I know for sure is that I only want people around me who want to see the best for me and the first inclination that someone does not will get them exiled from my world (including FB, Twitter, etc.). Not because I think I am above having haters rather I have no use for that level of negativity in my life, nor do I have the time to give haters the attention they clearly need in order to thrive. But hey what do I know; I don’t even have any haters.
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