Soooo Serious!

So, my sister, in all her infinite wisdom (I am serious, she is pretty darn smart), told me yesterday that I am far TOOO serious. Now, she has known me my entire life, so I think she is capable to speak on my personality with such confidence. Am I serious? Yes. But I didn't stop there, I looked up the definition of serious (which, by that action alone, should have been enough to prove the point) and found this:

Serious -
1 : thoughtful or subdued in appearance or manner : 2 a : requiring much thought or work b : of or relating to a matter of importance 3 a : not joking or trifling : being in earnest c : deeply interested 4 a : not easily answered or solved b : having important or dangerous possible consequences 5 : excessive or impressive in quality, quantity, extent, or degree


Damn, this definition would be complete if it had my picture next to it. Darn you sister, right again! But ok, she said I am TOO serious. Which is the part I think I took issue with.

Am I too thoughtful and subdued? Sometimes I can be a bit serious when the situation can call for some less than serious behavior. But my personality has always been subdued, I just like to play the background.

Do I require much thought or work? Hell YES! But I am worth it!

Am I too deeply interested? As my friend Abby put it, I am passionate, push me about an issue I feel strongly about and I will debate you until I make my point. Some people think I can be intense that way, always on a soap box about something. But many great men have said, if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything (back on my soapbox I go).

Am I not easily answered or solved? Ask any man who has ever even thought about dating me, dated me, was in a relationship with me or even met me. I have been called complicated by men, (one man in particular) more than I have been called my name. If there were transcripts of our years and years of conversation, you would think that was his pet name for me (although the tone he uses when he says complicated doesnt sound quite the same as sweetie.)

Am I too excessive or impressive in quantity, quality, extent or degree? Well I would have to say yes. And that is not because I take myself so seriously, but because I am confident in who I am now. I have always thought I was impressive, but I wasnt always sure other people could see it. I thought I smart, capable and ambitious, but I wasnt always clear that others felt the same way. In my head, I always thought I was pretty, sexy, and fabulous but I couldnt always tell that men felt the same way. So now here I am, almost 30 years old and I clearly give off all these things about myself that I believe. So now when people meet me (according to my sister) they think I am SOOO serious. I realize after looking at this definition, that isnt a bad thing. While some people will be put off by my seriousness, I would rather be called serious than be called (as Miko put it) a silly bitch. My hope is that I attract people to me who are just as serious, because I dont have the time or patience for anything else.

Dont get me wrong, I like to have fun, laugh, crack jokes, be silly and all that. Anyone who knows me knows the main reason I dont have a coffee table in my living room is because I like the open space to randomly break out into dance moves whenever the spirit moves me! You would never think I was that serious if you have ever witnessed me trying to entertain a child. I was my Godson's personal clown for some years. And my people who really know me, have tons of fun with me, off the hook type fun. So if those who dont know me think I am serious when they first meet me that is fine. They dont need to see me do the funky chicken after knowing me for 10 minutes!

Once again, my big sis was right, I am soooo serious, too serious, I dont think so, but serious none the less! (and she loves her serious little sister!!)