He didn’t want a commitment. He moved to Paris. He got married to someone half his age. He lured her into an adulterous relationship during his marriage. He got caught and divorced his wife. He moved to the west coast without telling her. He opened up his heart (after open heart surgery) and then closed it back up. Yet he swept back in after all that, told her she was “the one” and they lived happily ever after. Until he left her at the alter. Then he built her a closet, it wasn’t logic, it was love and THEN they lived happily ever after.
Many of us (myself included) rooted for this couple to make it, despite his shortcomings and complete asshole like behaviors. For some reason, there was this belief that all this was to be overlooked because at his core, Big really loved Carrie and she really loved him. She spent 10 years of her life, as she put it in SATC2, “running around NY chasing/begging this man to love her.” Yet every step of the way in the lives of these fictional characters, many of us (myself included) crossed our fingers just hoping they could get it together and be happy, even though the road to happiness was paved with intense misery, lined with alot of BS and filled with unrequited love. Many people will say that in real life, half the crap Big pulled would have sent them running for the hills given Carrie’s age and status. However, in the name of love, I have seen people endure worse.
Every romantic comedy/drama has a moment where one party does something so unforgiveable to the other that they must separate. Yet within the 20 minutes it takes on screen, party one has realized that they messed up and is able to find party two right before they board the plane, train or bus and convince them that the love they share is more important than the unforgivable act and they live happily ever after. We relish in this, we run to the theaters to see it, we (on some levels) buy into that theory. But in real life, is that what most of us practice? Does love concur all? Does love and getting to the “happily ever after” moment, erase or justify the road to it paved with a lot BS? Or is that just for the movies?
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I've always had mixed thoughts on Carrie and Big's relationship.However,people in glass houses should not throw stones.But like you said, many have endured worse.Personally, I've learned that I am responsible for my happiness.No one is in control of my life.I am.Why should I hold someone accountable for making my life "happy" Don't they say you can't blame anyone when we do or make wrong choices?Well, in my opinion,the same applies to matters of the heart.Fortunately,we cross paths with people who touch our hearts.Sometimes,we know these people aren't "the one" but we hang around just in case..lol.Bottom line is we all have "dealt" with situations.We owe no one an explaination.If you whine and complain to your girls..yes,they will judge you,him and the situation.If you internalize your feelings,you can become ill/depressed.But if you follow your heart and admit to yourself and those around you that you love/care for the man that is indeed an asshole,everything should be ok.I've had my share of Mr.Big's..Smh.But truth be told,I loved them/they loved me.So in love,in my opinion,there's no room for logic..only love. JRB
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