He is perfect except…. She is clearly not the one you would be with in the future, but her skills in the bedroom make her tolerable. To compensate for these minor (or sometimes major) missing points, you sprinkle in additional people to make the pie whole. (Please note, this is strictly in the situation of single people who are not committed to anyone) As a group they are the perfect mate, too bad they are simply a combination of different people.
When you meet someone and get to know them, sometimes it is clear that they are not totally what you would like to have as a mate. They do have redeeming qualities, it is just that as a total package they dont cut it. However, given the circumstances, their presence in your life can be beneficial. Maybe you are at a point in your life where you are not ready to focus all you love and attention on a relationship. Perhaps you have not found what you are looking for in one person. Either way, this person meets your needs on some level. The needs they don’t meet, you handle that by inserting someone has the sole purpose of making up where the others are lacking. This cocktail of personalities can be tasty and satisfying if done correctly and a pure disaster if done incorrectly.
So what do you do? It is my understanding that in relationships, you are entitled to have whatever it is that meets your needs. It is such a blessing when you find that complete package in one very special person. In the interim, what if you find more than one person who collectively give you what you need? Is it wrong to have all the people in your life in order to get your needs met? Is this selfish to participate in the variety of relationships or is it ok to build the perfect mate from parts of different people?
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